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An Italian friend of mine once complained to me that he couldn’t get his head around Hong Kong women’s mentality. He said many of the women he had dated quite bluntly declared what they were looking for in a relationship – happiness (and lots of it).

Of course, there is nothing wrong with seeking happiness in life, but as my friend put it, “Not on the first date while we are still sussing each other out and deciding whether there should be a second date. What’s wrong with just going with the flow and having some fun first?”

Many of my non-local male friends have complained about how difficult it is to bridge the cultural gap when dating Hong Kong women.

There is a derogatory term in local slang, “Kong Girl” or gong nui in Cantonese, to describe the type of Hong Kong women who are self-centred, demanding, materialistic and arrogant. Worst of all, they seem to lack the self-awareness to realise they are the embodiments of such undesirable traits.

“Kong” is short for Hong Kong, which also emphasises the locality, but it doesn’t insinuate that the entire Hong Kong female population are Kong Girls. Another way to better understand this Hong Kong phenomenon is that Kong Girls have the so-called “Princess Syndrome”, the symptoms of which are narcissism and egocentrism.

Interestingly, Kong Girls have become less conspicuous recently, so if you’re not sure how to spot one, here are some handy tips to keep in mind.

When someone asks you what you do for a living, or where you live, or if you drive to work or even where you went to school, you could assume that these are standard, innocuous questions for a first date. However, when a Kong Girl asks these questions, she’s mentally piecing your answers together to figure out how much you make (and essentially, how much you’re worth to her).